New Year, Same Me: Why It’s Important to Set Realistic Resolutions

Hey y’all!

As hard as it is to believe, it’s 2019! 2018 went by so fast and it was filled with adventures. Drew and I were looking back at all the memories we made and it was crazy to think that we packed so much into one year. We bought our first house, travelled everywhere from Charleston to Disney World to Cozumel, and celebrated our first wedding anniversary- and that’s just the abridged version of our 2018. It. Was. Crazy.

I’m not a big believer in New Year’s resolutions. I’ve always felt that it puts a lot of pressure on this one day to be a life-changing event- expectations are high, goals are lofty, and disappointment is just around the corner (not to be a downer, but it’s true). Last year, Drew and I made a goal to go on one fun trip every month. While our year was packed with great adventures, this was a pretty unrealistic goal for people who just bought a house, so we didn’t quite accomplish this feat in 2018.

I feel like this happens a lot when people make New Year’s resolutions- we forget to look at the bigger picture, we set goals we can’t accomplish, and we get disappointed. This year, Drew and I are making the same resolution- go on one fun trip every month. Why? Because our calendar is wide open! Our house is in a great place and we have a schedule together for smaller renovations we want to accomplish (I’ll share in a later post). We don’t have any weddings or major events scheduled, and we’ve been saving (money and credit card points) to use on our adventures. We planned and I have full confidence that we can accomplish this goal. Stay tuned for trip updates (and let me know in the comments if you have a suggestion about where we should visit!).

Here are a few things to keep in mind when you’re making resolutions, whether on New Year’s or any other day of the year!

  1. Look at the bigger picture.Β Evaluate where you are right now and where you’re going. For example, Drew and I went into 2018 knowing we were going to buy a house. Our goal could have been to spend 6 months fixing up the house and then 6 months doing fun things (that’s actually more what ended up happening). If your calendar is full, don’t try to fill it up more and then get stressed out. If you just started a new job, don’t try to set a goal to spend 6 days a week at the gym. Look at where you are and set goals you can achieve!
  2. Be realistic.Β As I just mentioned, don’t set unattainable goals and be disappointed when you can’t achieve them. New Years isn’t a miracle. If you just had knee surgery, don’t make your goal to run a marathon in March. Maybe set a goal to getΒ  back in the gym and work up to a 5k. If you just bought a house, don’t make your goal to fix it up in one year (TRUST ME ON THIS ONE). Maybe set a goal to get all the rooms painted the way you want them. Set realistic goals because guess what? Accomplishing your goals will inspire you to set more!
  3. Stay positive!Β This one is key. Unfortunately, for me, this is the hardest step. If I miss a day at the gym or get a week behind on our home renovations I have a bad habit of getting really frustrated with myself. Fortunately, Drew is really good at staying positive and keeping us set on our goals, even if things don’t go as we planned. If you have a hard time staying positive, find someone in your life who can be your cheerleader! Hearing positive things is the first step to believing them, and positivity is the key to accomplishing your goals.

To give you some examples, here are some of the goals I’m setting this year:

  1. Go on one fun adventure every month
  2. Finish small renovations on one room every month
  3. Post to Pinterest once a week (I’m SUPER slack on Pinterest but I love it!)
  4. Read 2 books every month

I’m excited for these goals, even though some are the same or similar to some I set for last year. New year, same me, and ya girl is doing just fine.

What are your goals for 2019? Let me know in the comments!


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